My love, my life, soul mate and companion


Jezz and I met on 7 November 2000 at the bar of Legends club and hotel, Marine Parade, Brighton.


In 2001, Jezz moved away from his home in Milton Keynes and stayed with work colleagues in Purley, Surrey. He worked as a co-licensee at The Gypsy Moth pub in The Colonnades, Purley Way, Croydon. He would come to work with me some days when I was working as a booking clerk at a limousine hire company based in Charlwood, near Gatwick Airport.

Special days out have included being chauffeur driven in a stretch limousine to the Royal Albert Hall to see Victoria Wood, another limo hire for 5 hours driving around London's West End and South London on a gay pub crawl with my sister Nikki, her two friends Fran and Laurie and flatmate Paul.
He was very supportive and with me totally when Kingston Hospital's A&E department told me that Betty had died, Christmas Eve 2001 and we had to drive to New Malden and tell my Dad (Nik was also with us).


In 2002, we moved in together in April into a two-bedroom ground floor flat in Wallington, Surrey. He was very supportive and completely with me for Jean's funeral.


In 2003, Jezz and I went to Julia's 50th birthday celebration at her home in Woodmansterne, on New Year's Eve Jezz dressed in a suit just before midnight, dressed the dining room table with tea candles, all in a heart shape and inside the heart was a champagne bottle and 2 glasses all in a neat holder.


In 2004 we ventured out to the theatre to see Fame The Musical at Bromley, a trip to Thorpe Park and he helped me to overcome my fear of white knuckle fun-fair rides, even if only for a day. We spent many evenings at the gay pub The Goose and Carrot and karaoke nights in the downstairs bar. He was with me to help organise Dad's 80th birthday celebration and the evening meal at Kelong Chinese restaurant in Waddon along with the creation of the 'This Is Your Life' style photo album. He was a huge comfort and very supportive at a friend's funeral, Mark from The Goose & Carrot (Richard's partner). We also did a photoshoot together with David Jack in Shirley Hills.


Jezz has the kindest heart of all that I’ve experienced in my life so far. He provides all of the support for my ill health and has a level of care that makes him a very special person. (2003)


In 2005, Jezz was by my side for another funeral, this time Frank Browne's, (Emma's Dad). This year was also mixed with sad and happy times... Jezz's partner from Milton Keynes, Ted died and we attended his funeral. It's also the year that Jezz and I met David Wallis, aka Daddy David in Brighton. Also, Jezz passed his theory test and then his driving test. We both went to see Joan Rivers at the Fairfield Halls, Croydon and we celebrated Jezz's birthday with 10 friends at Park Place, Mitcham. We went again with the family to celebrate Dad's 81st birthday. And we stayed overnight at his Mum and sister's (Joan and Hayley's) for the first time. We finished off the year with friends at The Reflex nightclub, Kingston on New Year's Eve.


In 2006, Jezz helped me to overcome two phobias... flying and white-knuckle rides in theme parks. We had cause to join Nick in a business trip to Denmark and Jezz coaxed me to get my passport updated and we went to Copenhagen in May for an overnight stay. We also accompanied Nick and David (Daphne) to return a BMW car to Dunkirk via the ferry. We went to the cinema to see Rent and Jezz exchanged his Renault Clio for a red Suzuki Jimny.


In 2007, there was a health issue (undisclosed), Jezz also started his PADI course for diving, one of special days out included a trip to London Zoo with Mum Joan and sister Hayley.


In 2008, there were two significant losses, our dear friend Jeff in February and my Dad in April. Jezz was there completely. He kept a respectful distance while I attended to Dad's funeral arrangements with my sisters and he stayed by my side for Jeff's funeral too. We try to do at least one special day out a year and this year it was to Brooklands Museum and the Mercedes Benz World in Weybridge.


In 2009, in February Jezz and I buy one another an eternity ring each. Jezz lost his Nan (Ivy) and we attended her funeral in Essex. We were together for Michael Charlton's 50th birthday celebration at Henfold Lake where we had a bbq. In June, we learn of another loss, this time it was Dan, Tony's partner and we went to see Tony and again to pay our respects at Dan's funeral. Jezz and I went blackberry picking at Ashtead Common. We had another special day out and this time with Daddy David to Hastings. We went to Barbara's 60th birthday celebration at The Woodman in Woodmansterne. We went with DD to Torquay for 4 days and this was to be the most special of the breakaways with DD and the last. It was my visit to Bluewater and we both met up with Melanie there. We went to Littlehampton for the day with DD and had fish and chips.


In 2010, we celebrated Spencer's birthday at a local Indian restaurant as well as sister Nikki's at the Pizza Express, we both went to see a recording of the Channel 4 panel game show Out Of Ten Cats. We then also had tickets to see Bruce Forsyth, A Comedy Roast. We met Jamie for the first time in the cafe at Shirley, we took DD to his first floatation tank in London. We went to Melanie's for the day and met her partner then, Mark and Mel's daughter Adele... we had a bbq in their garden. Jezz's gallbladder saga started and he was hospitalised twice, one of them to have it removed. Jezz traded in his Jimny for a lime green Peugeot 207cc, we both bought our first iPhone together, it was the iPhone 4S.


In 2011, Jezz and I did a photoshoot with Michael Keogh at his place, Jezz bought us both a Pandora bracelet each and it started a short-lived interest with everything that was Pandora. We went to London to see DD and then again to collect him and take back home to Brighton. Jezz and I go with Joan and Hayley for a special day out to Hampton Court Palace and then another day out with them again to Arundel. Jezz bought a new iMac. Jezz and I went to the Westfield Shopping Centre. We also went to the Epsom Playhouse to see Paul Zerdin. We spent an open mic evening with Kelly, Debbie and Kes at the Dragon pub in Colgate. It was our first time at Cosmo's in Croydon and we went with the Gardener family for Vicki and Irene's birthday. We arranged an afternoon spa treatment and lunch in Brighton for DD who was too poorly to join in but turned up. We mourned together for another loss, Daddy Daddy in November.


In 2012, we went for an evening meal for my birthday to The Halfway Bridge, Petworth with Donald and Ian, we met up with Sarah and Karen for a catchup and meal at Henry's Table, Beddington. An afternoon tea with Ian, Donald and Kelly at Cliveden House. To the Guildford, theatre to see Three Men In A Boat, and again Cirque Du Ciel's Shanghai at The Kingston Theatre, to a Vintage car show in Wallington with Ian and again to Wisley Gardens. We had another special day out and this time with Nikki in Brighton for the day.


In 2013, we went with Ian to London for a day out and was treated to breakfast at Fortnum & Mason's. Jezz bought me a Mac mini, he broke his ankle at Epsom Downs, we went to Vicki's 40th birthday in Handcross, Jezz had a gathering of friends and family at home in the garden for his Big Birthday Firework Night Extravaganza.


In 2014, a special day out with Kelly to London's Borough Market and a float at Float Works. Another special day out and this time with Nikki to Rustington. We went with Michele, Nikki and Anthony to Norfolk and stayed overnight in a B&B. It was to be at Aunty Gwen's funeral. We also went to see a new home in Langley Park Road, Sutton and hated it.


In 2015, Jezz and I underwent the massive saga of moving home. It wasn't far from the flat but we were fortunate enough to be able to upgrade to a 2 bedroom house with back garden and drive for 2 cars. We also spent a day out in Pagham, visiting Barry (the gardener) and meeting his lovely wife Mel and daughter Ellie (and boyfriend Ben) and Lottie the dog. We also went to see Sarah and Karen at their home on the south coast. We bought a Flymo Easi-Glide lawnmower together. We met up with Norma at IKEA in Croydon. Jezz went for an interview and got the job at Waitrose and started two weeks later. Meals out included The Beijing Garden, Cheam Village, The Blue Ball, Tadworth (with Nikki), The Mill House, Mitcham and we hosted an evening with Mother, Sara, Jodie, Michele and Nik at our place.


In 2016, Jezz and I tried ray wings for the first time at home, we both went to his works belated Christmas party at Epsom Downs, I got my new John Lewis Partner's Partnership discount card that Jezz applied for, Jezz got his first and second iWatch and gave me his first one, he bought a wonderful Swarovski crystal teddy bears with hearts for our anniversary, had meals out at The Bell in Reigate, Subway at Valley Park, Cau restaurant in Kingston (twice), The Well House Inn in Mugswell, The Rambler's Rest in Coulsdon, Michele's for a family gathering, Sakura Indian restaurant for Jezz's 45th birthday, bought and had installed new kitchen lights and sink tap, bought an expensive video doorbell, set of curtains for the lounge, a Dyson cordless vac, a Qualcast trimmer and a Dualit kettle.


In 2017, Jezz and I went for meals at The Silver Spoon Diner, Tattenham Corner, Poppins in Sutton, The Black Swan in Peas Pottage where we met up with Vicki and all had Sunday lunch together, The Thatched Inn in Hassocks with sister Nikki, The Grasshopper Inn in Westerham, The Woodman at Woodmansterne where we had an evening meal outside for Stacey's 30th and Alfie's 14th birthday, Max's Thai Cooking with Nikki and Harrison for Jezz's birthday, met up with Jezz at lunchtime as a surprise and went for lunch in Organico in Epsom. It was my 50th birthday in April and Jezz paid for sister Nikki and I to spend a day at the spa in The Grand Hotel, Brighton. It was the year that Jezz bought his Mini Cooper Coupé. We converted the dining table into a coffee table. Jezz came with me to meet up with Mother, Amanda and Sara at Mother's. Jezz came with me to the Christmas party at The Courtyard Clinic.


In 2018, Jezz and I had an Indian meal at Akash Tandoori, Hackbridge, at Global in Croydon for Freddie's 9th birthday, The Star in Leatherhead and again with his Mum and Hayley. We both went to Brighton on another occasion, day out to Amanda's and a bite to eat at The Chocolate Frog, Oakhanger. A drive out for a meal at The Little Brown Jug in Tonbridge for Sunday roast lunch, The Sheep Shed at Botley Hill for afternoon tea. We both turned up together for Paul Caiger's 50th at the North Cheam Sports and Social Club, 2 trips to Reigate Village doing the charity shops and getting something to eat, day out in Eastbourne, breakfast at the Red Barn, Lingfield, another drive out to nowhere in particular and ended up in Ockley and had breakfast in The Inn On The Green and a drink in The Abinger Hatch, Abinger Common, a fish and chips meal at The Plaice To Eat in Epsom, evening Italian meal out with Nikki to La Banca, Carshalton Beeches, ten-pin bowling in Tolworth followed by an Italian meal at Wildwood, Cheam Village with Nikki and Harrison and finally, watched 15 movies together.


In 2019, Jezz joined the gym, Jezz and I went for meals out, The Kings Arms in Westerham together, another lunchtime pub meal with Harrison at The Ye Olde Red Lion in Cheam, lunchtime pub food at The Shy Horse, Chessington, evening birthday meal at The Emperor, North Cheam with Nik, spent an evening at The Faraday pub in Epsom for one of his work colleagues leaving gathering, breakfast at Bohemia Grand Cafe in the Lanes, Botley Hill Farmhouse, Warlingham, drive out to Lewes with a short walk and ice cream, met up with the family for Stacey's birthday at The Woodman, Woodmansterne, Botley Hill Farmhouse, Warlingham for afternoon tea, watched 8 movies together.

Days out: a day at Amanda's in Bordon, Hampshire, shopping in Kingston including tea and cake in the John Lewis cafe, fish and chips in Superfish in Cheam Village, Arundel with Harrison, a 'Just The Two Of Us' day out in Brighton, a 'Special Day' out in The Lanes, Brighton, Two Day Breakaway 2019 including Alton Towers, breakfast at Bill's restaurant and Brighton Pride with Amanda, day out to Eastbourne and then Brighton and came with me to collect Kelly & Chris from Gatwick, our grandson Ethan's 13th birthday party, again a trip to see Kelly, Chris and the boys and then Jezz's brother, Elliot, day-out driving through the villages Shoreham, Lancing, Goring, Devil's Dyke and Henfield,

Jezz bought me my own HomePod.

We both had the same fingerprint heart kite/balloon tattoo with coordinates of the place where we first met.


In 2020, we had a meal out at Sakura, Jezz got familiar with the McDonalds app, we had a picnic at Farthing Down together, a picnic and met with Amanda at The Hoggs Back, day out in Clapham and Tooting with Amanda, a socially distancing family meet at Deb & Jim's and another one at Nikki's with Michele, Mother, Amanda and Sara, Jezz bought the Nissan Juke, another day out shopping with Amanda; this time to Kingston, both tested negative for the COVID-19 anti-body test, Jezz passed out at work... twice and an ambulance was called, Jezz bought me a mini-fridge for my room, I bought him his giant bean bag for his room, spent months together locked in isolation.

There's nobody who is more there
There's nobody else with the extent of care
There's nobody who shares my scares
There's nobody else anywhere

He does everything, he is everything
Wayne S Alton, 31 May 2004

I love you so much my Julie
My absolute soulmate
I never want to live a day without you
Cos... Well... it just wouldn't be great

Wayne S. Alton, 11 February 2013

Jezz's Photos

These are the many photos of Jezz over the decades.